Why I Don't Like Splitting The Bill When I'm In A Relationship

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Blur out the faces of anyone who isn't you. Built into that first encounter is a mating ritual…you know, fluffing out your best feathers, etc. Is response will tell everything.

Or, really, any instance where I'm taking someone out to eat, like a family or friend event. Exceptions would be a known plan ahead of time, like dinner and a movie, where if he insists on paying for the first part I can then insist on getting the second part.

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Well, there are a lot of things that could be going on here, and I'm trying to optimize across all of them. Not offering can seem rude or cheap. When a guy asks to split the bill can be appealing for some, and offputting for others. Especially if they have dated somebody who thinks buying dinner entitles them to something. I'd hate to make a starving artist more starving, especially if I suggested a nice place. For some, splitting the check is a way of establishing equality from the get-go. That's fun; it's a way of being equal without the awkwardness of splitting checks. So if there's any sign of discomfort when I end up picking up the check, I'll say, You can get the next one. Like everything about a first date, it's a bit of a minefield. My goal here is to get us through so that there's no major awkwardness and we know a bit more about one another. If I like her: If she doesn't offer at all, then I think this is somewhat rude and a bit of a turn-off. Women should at least offer and do the slow reach for the purse move, even though we both know I'm likely paying. If she offers, but lets me pay after I insist, then that's good. If she continues to insist on splitting it like 3 or 4 times even after I say I want to pay, then this is bad. I assume this means she doesn't like me and feels bad about me paying. If I don't like her: Then obviously I care a lot less. I still expect to pay and if she only offers once, then I will still paybut if she insists, then that's fine with me - I know I'm not going to see her again, so if I can save a few dollars then why not. Doesn't this picture describe exactly most of the answers here, and how it would be perceived if a man made the same offer to a woman. So to answer your question, I would be very glad to hear such an offer, it would tell a lot about her, but probably won't agree on it, at least not the first time. Although I'm a firm believer in evolutionary biology and the historical responsibility of males to provide food and shelter to females, but this is 2016 and I happen to be extremely attracted to independent women who are genuinely interested in me as a person, when a guy asks to split the bill as a dinner or a wallet. Throughout my dating experiences I hardly ever kept dating a woman who failed to make such an offer by the second date at most, let's face it, nobody got time for those princesses who still live in some medieval castle and require men to take care of their responsibilities, it's the 21st century and we are hearing enough everyday about gender equality and feminazi everywhere, so why not act by it. I especially liked going places where they asked about separate checks at the end of the meal instead of at the beginning for this reason since it gave me a chance to have dinner before deciding. It's been a while since I dated with my now husband for 9 yearsbut I don't miss this at all. From my dating days -- I generally respond with something along the lines of, Thank you, but don't worry about it -- this evening has already been so nice that it's the least I could do. That last bit is there to subtly hint that I'm not one of those guys who's going to expect something in return later in the evening or ever. I'll admit to being old-fashioned enough to prefer to pick up the bill on a first date, so a repeated request would be met with an offer to let her pick up the tab next time, if she wants. I won't continue contesting if she seems to still feel very strongly about it, though. It's a ridiculous faux pas, if it happens anytime after the original date planning phase like, say, when the check arrives at the table. If she can't afford to pay for the whole date herself, she shouldn't make the offer. If she tries to use it as a way to express disinterest, it's scary levels of passive-aggression. Default procedure is just to alternate who pays as you go, and perhaps not to get too caught up in who's paying all along the way. Men risk so much inasmuch as there's anything to lose by going out in the world and striving to have funeven or especially in the face of changes to the rules of the game in recent decades, that women really need to step up harder when it comes to basics like this. If buying the wrong guy dinner is a big deal, either don't go out, or be very clear from the start that you want to go dutch. Anything else is just calculated dickery.

If you are on a date, and the man asks the female to pay for half; realize that this man is nothing but a friend. What do you think about going dutch on a date? This isn't about cheapening the relationship - it's about common decency. I don't know, but splitting the bill seems somehow so stingy. This relationship will go no where. And the woman should just say no thank you. I agree, If the woman asks the man she should be expected to pay the bill. The courtship ritual is deeply ingrained in most animal species and humans are no exception. I'm one of those, I feel bad if I don't pay for you guys. Now, if a guy casually asks me out, I always offer to pay half, although no one has ever let me pay.